You will get to know crippling sleep deprivation, experience new stresses and responsibilities, and find your partner is a different person— and never loves you the same way again.

You’re not a 2nd choice parent, or back-up babysitter.  You are the specialist in the unique and important “Dad Stuff” (sleep, boundaries, language, confidence & people skills”) that are essential to your baby’s lifelong success.  Your partner and your child need you.  

Their confidence, people skills, how they respond when things go wrong, their ability to learn – they are all formed from 0 to 3.

During their first three years of development, your child is forming a million new neural connections per second.

You make the weather. How and what you communicate, how you react and interact, how you see them and how they see you – this is the mental learning environment you create.

You can learn how to work together better, and to support her without losing yourself. Learn smart ways to fight, and tricks for keeping your team together, even when the baby is screaming at 3 am and neither of you has slept in weeks.  By knowing the challenges that you and she are likely to face, you can prepare for them.

You may be the only person looking after you – so you’ve got to step up and be there for yourself, too— eating well, exercising, and having mental support of your own.

Part of taking care of your family is taking care of yourself.

For the first 3 months, your child is sort of a needy blob.  Gradually, it will “wake up” and the magic that will change your life just keeps getting better. Be patient! It is the most fun you’ll ever have. It’s as simple as showing up and paying attention.