Dr. Emmi Pikler pioneered the philosophy of "respectful parenting”— treating infants as capable individuals deserving of trust, autonomy, and dignified care— that has served as the basis for other child development schools including Waldorf and RIE.

DadTime works across all four of Bronfenbrenner’s systems— the microsystem, mesosystem, exosystem, and macrosystem.

Referred to as the “Mozart of Psychology,” Lev Vygotsky was one of the most influential psychologists of the 20th century. He advanced the belief that talent and intelligence aren’t innate, but rather developed through interaction with parents, peers, and the environment, and identified growth as occurring in the “zone of proximal development.”

Jean Piaget changed the way we see childhood by revealing that infants are "little scientists" who construct intelligence through active, hands-on struggle. DadTime puts this theory into action by creating a "yes" environment where fathers step back, allowing their children the uninterrupted freedom to experiment, fail, and learn.

Connection is care. To connect with your child, you have to enter the world.

Boundaries are choices stated as facts. Learn a framework for creating and upholding boundaries to create safety and build trust.

Gain greater awareness of how your communication habits shape your child’s development.

The U.S. Surgeon General recently issued a Health Advisory on the mental health and well-being of parents, recognizing that when parents thrive, so do their children.

In 1978, Magda Gerber laid the foundation for Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE). She demonstrates RIE’s principles in the context of play in her film, With care and respect: On their own with our help. In the decades since, research has affirmed the positive impact respect-based parenting practices have on a child’s development across mental health, confidence, professional success, and resilience.

Stoicism, Buddhism, Reflective Practice, Quakerism, and Mindfulness, all center around the same thing - the "best self" described by parenting author Becky Bailey.

The Stoics were practical and direct, and, to me at least, their approach is particularly helpful ... What worked for Roman emperors is handy when dealing with car seats, feeding and public tantrums, as well as the bigger questions of "what do I do," or understanding one’s role in the world.

The Strong Start™ system is built on the idea of “Envirocasting”:

1) being conscious of how your words and actions are choices that create your child’s environment, and

2) managing yourself to develop habits of interaction that will support your child’s social, emotional and cognitive development, giving them independence, resilience, confidence, and the ability to know themselves and work well in relation to others.

I love RIE. I love RIE because it provided me with a framework for caregiving. In our isolated society where we don’t regularly have family or family-like people around us to model a parenting structure, its nice to have a guide. But more importantly, I love the philosophy behind RIE. It taught me to think in a different, more “respect-conscious” way about my relationships and interactions with all people, not just my child.

“Of course, they fall – but they don’t expect an adult to run and rescue them. Learning to fall, getting up again, and moving on –is the best preparation for life.” - Magda Gerber

Start by stopping.

When we see trouble from our near our child, our first response comes with an automatic exhale: “No!” or “Stop” or “What are you doing?” We respond right away, by … responding.

Instead, always inhale first. There is no problem with your child that pausing a few seconds won’t help you do better with.  So … Stop Yourself!

Your child makes her own choices.   Sometimes you frame them, but they are her choices.   The sooner she starts making her own (age appropriate) choices, the better.  Within the boundaries,  you want to let them lead – let them make their own choices, and learn from the outcomes … just like in “real life!”

We’ve all seen it. Mom says: “Look how he’s throwing my baby around – does he really not get that her physical safety is important?” … and Dad says “Lighten up.  We’re just playing – she’s learning how to have a good time.”

As is so often the case in couple conflicts, both sides are “right:” Both roles are needed, and helpful.  

Often, you can see discomfort in both the body language and faces of children who don’t have free control of their own bodies.  Once you begin to think about what the child is thinking, you will begin to see everywhere. The photo above isn’t as awful as it can be, but one must always ask: “What is that like for the kid?” 

Keep in mind – we don’t “teach” babies and toddlers anything – they learn from their environment. Caregiver behavior and communication are the main creator and framing agent of the child’s environment. RIE.org is a small organization with a huge influence: what were once fringe theories have been proven out by neuroscience are now widely recommended.

You could say “parenting instincts are in our DNA” and it’s true – our instincts towards small children evolved over hundreds of thousands of years of living communally in hunter-gatherer tribes. While the world has changed rapidly, our evolved instincts have not.

Anna Machin’s look at “Human Fatherhood” starts from two simple observations: we are among the only 5% of mammals that have “investing fathers;” and the physiological changes that happen to men when they become fathers would not have been favored by evolution unless father investment was vital to our survival.