StrongStart™ Fundamentals: Communication

StrongStart™ Fundamentals: Communication

Communication: Say, See, Show…Slow

Your child exists only in the present moment and moves at a slower pace than you do. When communicating, you need to enter their world rather than expecting them to enter yours.

SAY: Be a "play-by-play announcer," not a "color commentator." Avoid asking meaningless questions ("Is that your ball? Do you like your ball?") or giving directions ("Come on, throw the ball to me"). Instead, narrate what's happening in the moment using simple language: "You are holding the ball."  Use positive "I" statements and narrate what you see happening. Care routines are partnerships—something you do with your child, not to them.

SEE: Your child is really good at being exactly the age they are right now. Notice what stuff is about them versus what's about you. See learning and growth, especially coming out of conflict and problems. Recognize boundaries—where you end and where they begin. See the environment you're creating: Is it challenging? Consistent?

SHOW: Your child is studying you all the time—learning how to be human and playing every child's favorite game: "Control the Giants." Think and feel out loud. Be mindful of your body language and tone of voice. Show how to have relationships through your interactions with others and with them. Model listening, using "I" statements, curiosity, and acceptance. Be consistent, predictable, and keep your word to create certainty.

SLOW: Give your child time and space to respond. Your patience signals respect and builds connection.

Learn more about communication at StrongStart Practice.