You want to be perfect – but you can’t. Don’t judge. And F*&$ anyone who judges you – anyone!
The first time your baby catches a cold, you think you are going to die. They’re helpless – it’s terrifying.
Sometimes, this baby is going to cry … and there is nothing you can do, but hold it, and be there and wait. You’re powerless – and you have to be there.
There is so much to worry about that you get tired of worrying, and develop this sort of faith and acceptance. Being on same page with spouse is key.
Marriage as team. Even if marriage dies, you are still team with kid – for rest of life. So work together. And pray she’s reasonable once and a while.
People would say “Exhaustion” and “Sleep Deprivation” and I didn’t know what that was. I do now.
If you have mother-in-law problems now, it’s gonna get worse. Make sure your wife backs you up against your mother-in-law. They can try to close you out and plant crazy stuff in your wife’s head. Say “You had your kids – this is my kid.” It can be brutal.
Most importantly, take a few mins every now and then whether that be in the car after shopping or during a workout to just relax and focus on recharging your battery even if just for a few mins. It makes a world of difference.
I expected things to be 50/50 right off the bat. What I didn’t expect was that my newborn really only wanted his mom… It was unexpected and hurt that I couldn’t give him what he needed (milk!) and I don’t think I had emotionally prepared myself for that. It made the first few weeks hard.
“Again, Daddy!” They want that book again, that ride again, that way of playing again. It’s adorable … and it never ends. I guess I’ll miss it. Now, it would be okay if I got a break.
Everybody’s circumstances are different but remember that in order to function as parents you and the mother of your child must function as a couple first.
Remember that you are no longer the most important person in your wife’s life anymore when that baby arrives. Be ok with being somewhat set aside.
I was taking care of my wife, and she was taking care of the baby. I was just less important – at least at first.